No--unfortunately, I think it's very common. One of my best friends made in adulthood just moved thousands of miles away, and one of our mutual friends and I were just recently discussing (and lamenting) the transient nature of many of life's relationships, even the ones we so badly want to preserve.
It's so true. I sometimes feel like I have way more connections accumulated all over the country (and even outside the US) than I do locally. That's fun from a visiting people/travel standpoint, and it's certainly easier than ever to stay connected-- but I don't think it replaces the regular in-person connection of local friends.
A very good read thank you! Being in my late 20s I can feel the shift and would love more tips on how to stop the process, if possible. Maybe this is something that is inevitable?
Thank you so much! Something I think I wish I had worked harder to establish in my late 20s as friends started to have children, was that I was fine with super informal get togethers-- like bringing over a pizza and sitting in their backyard. I think being more intentional about saying that to friends earlier rather than later might have eased some of the awkwardness of knowing it's probably easier if I go to visit them but not wanting to feel like I was inviting myself over. I do think some of the shift is inevitable-- but I also think talking about it helps!
Finding and fostering friendship is truly one of the biggest challenges of adulthood, if not of life.
Agreed. Always good to know I'm not alone in that feeling.
No--unfortunately, I think it's very common. One of my best friends made in adulthood just moved thousands of miles away, and one of our mutual friends and I were just recently discussing (and lamenting) the transient nature of many of life's relationships, even the ones we so badly want to preserve.
It's so true. I sometimes feel like I have way more connections accumulated all over the country (and even outside the US) than I do locally. That's fun from a visiting people/travel standpoint, and it's certainly easier than ever to stay connected-- but I don't think it replaces the regular in-person connection of local friends.
All true.
A very good read thank you! Being in my late 20s I can feel the shift and would love more tips on how to stop the process, if possible. Maybe this is something that is inevitable?
Thank you so much! Something I think I wish I had worked harder to establish in my late 20s as friends started to have children, was that I was fine with super informal get togethers-- like bringing over a pizza and sitting in their backyard. I think being more intentional about saying that to friends earlier rather than later might have eased some of the awkwardness of knowing it's probably easier if I go to visit them but not wanting to feel like I was inviting myself over. I do think some of the shift is inevitable-- but I also think talking about it helps!